girl help I’m getting they/them’d by well-meaning people who don’t know what a tomboy is
This feeling is strange and complicated. On the one hand it’s legit quite cool that nonbinary pronouns are becoming more widespread! On the other, I’ve spent my whole life pursuing interests and hobbies and ideals that weren’t seen as particularly feminine, and when I was younger this was a major source of bullying and stress alongside some generalized misogyny taking the form of “you can’t do or be anything you think is cool because you are innately inferior and to do otherwise means violating your nature,” and it took me a while to conclude that this was just straight horseshit top to bottom and I could do whatever I wanted and present myself however I wanted without in any way being Not A Girl, and now it’s like the exact same concept has flipped sides and is coming from a point of theoretical validation but still calculates out to “that’s not very ladylike of you, you must be something else”. anyway she/her thanks gang
I think it’s like. the understanding that the gender binary is a small part of a much wider space of identities is separate from the understanding that a lot of that gender binary is a false dichotomy that artificially walls off universal human experiences behind specific pronouns and while the first concept is gaining wider understanding the second is lagging a little, which means “I am a girl and I like doing boy things” reads as “oh I’ve heard about this, you must be one of the Others who don’t do the binary” rather than “the concept of ‘boy things’ is stupid from the jump”
just to be 100% clear
what this post is NOT talking about: using they/them pronouns for someone you don’t know, aren’t sure of, hasn’t had a chance to introduce themselves, etc.
what this post IS talking about: my highly personal experience seeing some people “correcting” my commenters that were using she/her pronouns for me, because, despite me exclusively using she/her pronouns and saying so whenever asked, through no action of mine they had gotten the idea that I was using “they/them”.
girl help I put a nuanced personal experience on the reading comprehension website
Sometimes I’m looking for something online - often “how to” articles - and I want to filter for - like - a website that was clearly built in 2010 at the latest, which may or may not have been updated since then, but contains a vast wealth of information on one topic, painstakingly organized by an unknown legend in the field with decades’ worth of experience.
I don’t want a listicle with a nice stolen picture in a slideshow format written by a content aggregator that God forgot. I want hand-drawn diagrams by some genius professor who doesn’t understand SEO at all, but understands making stir-fries or raising stick insects better than anyone else on this earth. I don’t know what search settings to put into Google to get this.
thank you for articulating this cri de coeur for me
ngl these days i’m just happy when it’s not a video
The search engine calculates a score that aggressively favors text-heavy websites, and punishes those that have too many modern web design features.
This is in a sense the opposite of what most major search engines do, they favor modern websites over old-looking ones. Most links you find here will be nearly impossible to find on a regular search engine, as they aren’t sufficiently search engine optimized.
“It is a search engine, designed to help you find what you didn’t even know you were looking for. If you search for “Plato”, you might for example end up at the Canterbury Tales. Go looking for the Canterbury Tales, and you may stumble upon Neil Gaiman’s blog.
If you are looking for fact, this is almost certainly the wrong tool. If you are looking for serendipity, you’re on the right track. When was the last time you just stumbled onto something interesting, by the way?
I don’t expect this will be the next “big” search engine. This is and will remain a niche tool for a niche audience.“
i clicked around for a few minutes searching various things and I now have two fourteenth century pie crust recipes and an apple filling recipe i want to try, so thanks!
it has been twenty minutes and I am deeply in love with this search engine.
INCREDIBLE. I *do* want to know how to test Windows 95 for Y2K Compliance and I am glad that someone is still hosting step by step instructions for that.
tl;dr: search.marginalia.nu for the old or old looking and just plain serendipitous stuff that google or Duck duck go are gonna not find/bury on the 20th page. For perfectly good reasons, but …
My absolute favorite part of having made this post - other than causing people to be introduced to this site - are the people in the tags/comments talking about their interests and stuff they found about their hobbies.
(I tried to keep the scrolling slow so it hopefully doesn’t make anyone dizzy)
ID: a video scrolling through the @queerliblib library front page displaying numerous queer titles and audiobooks.
Y’all, @queerliblib just went live and their collection is already incredible.
There are so many queer books there that I couldn’t get my local library to host. Seriously, if you’re in the US, go to their website and get yourself a library card. It integrated perfectly with my libby account and now I’m about to listen to so many books while I work.
Also, not Hunger Pangs being front and center for Disability Pride 😭. Thank you, @queerliblib 💖. And thank you for creating such a wonderful project. This is going to make such a difference for so many people.
Ahhh thank YOU, Joy! It’s an honor to have you in our collection. 🥰 Also hi this is Kieran and I don’t know how to use tumblr so sorry if I’m a big square lol but AHHH thank you so much for everything!!!
surrounding myself with a bubble of diversity and self love and body positivity online and then being exposed to normies who actually care about conventional beauty standards feels so fucking bizarre. like you people just live like this??? are you not tired???
“This historic proposed rule will advance justice for people with disabilities and help ensure they are not subjected to discrimination under any program or activity receiving funding from HHS just because they have a disability.”
Holy shit, this is huge. Like, so huge.
“Specifically, the rule would bar medical treatment decisions from being based on biases or stereotypes about disabilities. Likewise, judgements about the value of an individual’s life or their burden on others could not factor into treatment decisions related to organ transplants, life-sustaining care, crisis standards of care or otherwise.
The proposal also establishes enforceable standards for accessible medical diagnostic equipment and would require certain medical providers to have at least one accessible exam table and one accessible weight scale within two years of the rule being finalized.”
(Additionally, the rule addresses ableist biases in granting child custody and other matters relating to families and disabilities; bolding added by me.)
IMPORTANT: This proposed rule is open to public comment, so make sure to show your support by doing so at the link on or BEFORE November 13, 2023.
